Every affirmation is also a negation (said Georg Hegel). (Love saying 'Georg.') When you say 'yes' to something, it means that there is an infinity of possibilities that you're saying 'no' to at the same time. Love is the most profound affirmation. When we chose to love someone, not only is there a planet full of people that we are effectively deciding not to love, but there is so much that in the end, you're forgoing.

How jarring that realization is. For me, it's all about saying 'yes.' Me and Molly Bloom. If I'm going to affirm a relationship (and that's definitely where things are headed with the Special Guy), I want there to be as little 'no' as possible. Sound thinking? Realistic? Ay, there's the rub.