I'll close with a quote: "My first lesson was this: 'S/M is the search for excellence in ourselves and in others.' And the second lesson was this: 'Be responsible.' All the other lessons followed these two commands and were shaped by them." (My brow is deeply furroughed as I strain to remember junior high school punctuation rules for a quote that contains another quote.) "One among many: The seduction and training of a leatherman," by Thom Magister; appearing in Leatherfolk, Mark Thompson, Ed., Allyson Books, 2001.