Edge starts a campaign to stake out territory for kinkdom in the blogosphere!

At our crack-of-dawn editorial meeting here at Singletails, we unanimously voted to support this initiative.

So, reiterating what Edge sez, if you are reading this, and you are kinky, you are hereby under the strictest obligation to start a blog.

I see you smirking. 'Strictest obligation,' huh? Whachya gonna do about it if I don't?

Well that's simple. The next time I see you role your eyes about something that Guy Baldwin or Jack Rinella or Patrick Califia or some other elderstatesperson of kinkdom has put out there... or worse yet, dared to disagree with them, my response to you will be a deafening 'SHUT UP!'

Why? Because Guy/Jack/Patrick or whoever put themselves out there. They published what they think, albeit in that pleistocene manner involving a printing press. And you didn't. And why didn't you? Only because you don't blog.

The more it sinks in, the more I think it's really really really important that kinksters blog. As far as I can tell, there is no intellectual basis for what we do. Zip. Zero. Nada. Just about every thing I've read about BDSM has been descriptive. Do this. Don't do this. Do that this way. This is what we did. Why we do this stuff is sort of a black box. Not entirely. I've heard and been part of wonderful discussions over coffee and at conferences and runs and such, but I don't really get the opportunity to jump into anything like public discourse on those issues.

Are there issues out there?

Oh yeah. Absolutely. Here's some probing questions--right off the top of my head so therefore incomplete--that merit wider discussion.

• Are contests good or bad?
  
• Why have contests proliferated in recent years?
  
• What's up with those 'scene names' that pansexual players seem to have?
  
• If you're a gay male scenester, how do you feel about pansexual players?
  
• Should transgender folks be permitted into exclusively (born) male or exclusively (born) female space?
  
• If someone represents himself or herself as exclusively a Top, doesn't that indicate that either he or she is lying or doesn't know what he or she is talking about?
  
• And how about all those guys (I don't know of any women) who fetishize dressing up in leather but don't or won't do anything in the way of BDSM?
  
• Is everybody really kinky, but only a brave few decide to express that?
  
• Is breath control okay?
  
• Is the bar scene dead?
  
• How is being a 'cyber-slave' different from being a real time slave? Are they even comparable?
  
• How about those folks into Nazi roleplay?
  
• Is S/M sex, or is it something different?
  
• Are monogamy and S/M compatible?
  
• Safe Sane Consensual or Risk Aware Consensual Kink?
  
• If you get aroused hearing or reading about non-consensual torture and abuse, is that okay?
  
• Just what is the appeal of bondage?
  
• Is straight-up bondage a total bottom scene?
  
• Do you have snuff fantasies? Either as snuffer or snuffee. What do you think that means? How does it work its way into your play?
  
• Are power imbalance relationships viable in the long term?
  
• Would a negotiated scene wherein the Top gets the bottom intoxicated in some way or another be alright?
  
• What about those two guys in Berlin who apparently did a consensual cannibalism scene?
  
• Has S/M changed for you since September 11th?
  
• Is the Duchess of Malfi the greatest piece of S/M theater of all time or what?
  
• What did you think of the movie Secretary?
  
• Are S/M and being a good Christian incompatible ideas?
  
• Is Christianity a way of doing S/M?
  
• What do you mean when you say, "I love you"?
  
• Is there a spiritual aspect to all this, or is it just brain chemistry? Or, does the fact that it's all just brain chemistry not preclude it being spiritual?
  
• Bestiality: any thoughts?
  
• Are you out about being kinky at work? With your family? With your friends? With anyone? Are you okay with that? How do you decide who gets to know?
  
• Did you like the movie Jackass: The Movie, or had you seen that all before at Delta or Inferno?
  
• It's pretty much an unassailable claim that Vin Diesel would make a great slave, but what is it about Vin that would make him such a great slave?
  
• Can someone be too young to engage in S/M? Can someone be too old to engage in S/M?
  
• Ever get bored with this whole thing?
  
• Use him like a toilet and move on, or does there have to be a connection there for you?
  
• How do you decide whom you are going to play with and whom you will not play with? Are there objective criteria? Is it okay to be shallow in this respect (i.e., "no facial hair, no second look")? Does the person have to turn you on? Is it all about 'energy?'
  
• Would you Top a member of the sex that you wouldn't do the vanilla thing with? Would you bottom to a member of the sex that you wouldn't do the vanilla thing with? How come?
  
• It's often said that the dungeon is no place to work out issues of child abuse, or low self-esteem, or pent up anger... Do you agree or disagree?
  
• If you were profoundly morally troubled by the U.S. military intervention in Iraq, how does that jibe with your penchant for a high-and-tight and wearing fatigues and jump boots?
  
• It's just a motorcycle. What's the big deal?
  
• What was it like the very first time you Topped? Did you tell the bottom that you had never done this before? Did you feel great afterwards? Or did you feel silly afterwards?
  
• What's this thing about Tops wanting to Top Tops?
  
• Why are so many bottoms not okay with being public about being bottoms?
  
• Why are there more Tops than bottoms? Are there more Tops than bottoms?
  
• Do former bottoms make the best Tops?
  
• Is there a kink movement? Should there be?
  
• Any unresolved issues with your parents find their way into your dungeon?
  
• Do you think that science will one day discover a genetic and biological basis for kink in the same way that seems to be the case for homosexuality?
  
• Is there a person whom you have never met (celebrity or whatever) that you would love love love to get into your dungeon? Why? Just what is it about that person that draws you to him or her?
  
• Is S/M popping up in pop culture a good thing or a bad thing?
  
• Renaissance Faires: What is up with that?
  
• Now, explain to me what rubber is all about.
  
• Is gift giving and bug chasing an S/M thing?
  
• Is S/M just a grown up version of games we played as children?
  
• "Date with Proctologist Ends Predictably": Best Onionheadline ever?
  

That should be enough to get the ball rolling.

Are you in?

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